When someone does you wrong, how many chances do you give them? Are you one of those who gives up on a person the first time they mess up? Or do you give them multiple chances?
Of course there are many terrible circumstances where even one chance may have been too many. However, my focus here is on general day to day relationships; marriage, family, friends, co-workers, etc.
How many chances do we give them?
In my life, people have done me wrong more times than I can count. However, I am of the mindset that people can, and do change over time. Not everyone is the person that they once were.
Age, circumstances, illness and several other factors can change a person. I’ve seen it happen with my stepfather, who went from being an angry alcoholic to a loving, kind and sober grandfather.
Change has also happened in my life. I am certainly not the person I once was. To be given a second chance by those who I caused hurt in the past, would mean a lot to me.
Sadly, what I’ve discovered is that many people believe, “Who they were, is who they will always be.” When you’re faced with that situation it can be rather disappointing, because you know you’ve changed, but they refuse to see it.
Therefore, if I would like people to give me a second chance and I know how it feels for them not to, why then would I not do the same for someone else? How could I not give someone a chance to prove that they’ve changed? In my opinion, most people deserve that chance.
How many chances do you give?