Not-So-Common Courtesy

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Back in the day most children, many of us included, were taught to show common courtesy toward others. As the years pass by and new generations are born, it is becoming more evident that this practice is falling through the cracks.

{Common Courtesy: Behavior marked by polished manners or respect for others; politeness that people can usually be expected to show}

Common courtesy is expected, not because we owe it to people or because we are less-than them, but because we respect them. At least we should. Everyone, no matter their race, background, financial or social status should be respected.

We respect others because we would want them to respect us.

Here are a few examples of common courtesy that are rarely practiced anymore:

  • Open the door for someone and hold it open until they have cleared the doorway.
  • When on a bus, give your seat to someone who needs it more than you do, or to a lady as a sign of chivalry.
  • While driving, lower your music’s volume at intersections and in residential neighborhoods, as well as near schools, business complexes, and religious buildings during hours of operation.
  • Keep the bass on your stereo at a minimum when living in close proximity to others (apartments, condos, town homes, etc).
  • Clean up after your pets when out for a walk.
  • Stop your dogs from constantly barking if you have neighbors within hearing distance.
  • If you must spit, do it in the grass and not on the sidewalk where people will walk in it.
  • Pick up your trash instead of expecting someone else to do it for you. The sidewalk is not a trashcan. Neither is the street, someone’s yard, the bus, floor, or another person’s vehicle.
  • Cross at a crosswalk at a fast pace, instead of treating it as a leisurely stroll, especially when people are waiting to turn.
  • Jaywalk (which you shouldn’t, but if you do) with urgency, rather than expecting oncoming traffic to come to a complete stop and wait.
  • Talk with your inside voice, especially when you’re inside, but also when you’re within a foot distance of the person you’re speaking to outside.
  • Take phone calls outside, in a hallway, or in the entryway when at a restaurant, waiting room, etc.
  • Don’t watch videos with loud audio while dining at a restaurant. Better yet, put your device away altogether.
  • Always say please, thank you, and excuse me.

Common courtesy – It’s the small things in life that matter most. Let’s do our part in making the world a better place.

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Change Your Focus – One-Liner Wednesday

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You’ll never reach your goals by dwelling on your failures.

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Lessons can come from anyone, anywhere and at any time. All you have to do is listen.

 


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In the Spotlight

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Today, I found myself in a mental tug-of-war. My son and his fellow classmates were each asked to wear a t-shirt specifically designed for the purpose of teaching ‘acceptance’. Acceptance of their disabilities, to be exact.

On one hand, I’m happy that the school is promoting kindness and acceptance toward those who have special needs. When I was in school, I distinctly remember how everyone gawked at the students as they ventured out of the school’s special needs wing. I always felt bad for them because of how they were so closely scrutinized and many times teased, as they passed by.

For this reason, I commend the school for what they are doing to help these students be accepted by their peers. Like everyone else, they deserve to be treated kindly and with respect.

On the other hand, I try my hardest not to highlight my son’s disability. He has Autism. Fine. But, he doesn’t need to wear the label on his sleeve, literally. He, like most others with special needs, already have enough to deal with on an every day basis, without walking around in the spotlight. “Hey everyone! I’m already struggling to make it through my day without being seen as strange and different, so why not go all out? For everyone who doesn’t already know that I’m different, look at me! I have a disability!”

Perhaps this shouldn’t bother me, but it does. A lot.

Regardless, today my son chose to wear his t-shirt because he was asked to by his teacher, and he respectfully wanted to obey. For that, I commend him. So as I write this, he and several other children are walking around in the spotlight. They are promoting acceptance, but they are also drawing additional, and what could easily turn into bad and unwanted, attention.

Don’t misunderstand, no one should be ashamed of their disability, but not everyone with a disability wants it to be highlighted.

I’m very torn on how to feel about this. What the school is doing is both wonderful and terrible. Am I over-exaggerating or are my concerns valid and justified? I’m not sure, but I do know that it bothers me that my son is walking around in that t-shirt today.


Acceptance

 

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A Right Can Be Wrong – One-Liner Wednesday

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We have the right to do a lot of things, but that doesn’t mean we should. Having the right to do something, doesn’t always make it right.


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