The truth is, children with developmental disabilities get left out. I’ve seen it. Maybe it’s good that I only had one child. That way there’s no possibility of giving one child more attention than the other. I’ve seen in families of two or more children, that the one who does not have a disability gets treated better than the one who does. That’s sad and it angers me.
For example, a person has two children. They each have a birthday. The ‘normal’ child gets a full blown birthday party and receives all the gifts that he asks for. Later in the year, the disabled child has a birthday. What do they get? A couple cheap toys and no birthday party whatsoever, and that’s only if their birthday is remembered at all.
My son has autism. Is that supposed to mean that he doesn’t have feelings? He does. When others get more love than he does, it hurts him. When other children are being played with and he is invisible, it hurts him. If he’s in a room and everyone is talking and laughing around him, but no one even bothers to look at him, it hurts him. He has feelings. He experiences hurt. He feels sadness.
Look into his eyes and you will see his tears. You will see his pain. You will see how sad it makes him when he is unseen, unheard and unloved.
Love is an action. Kids can be told that you love them over and over again. But if you don’t show them that love, then that love means nothing.
It breaks my heart to see these precious children being thrown to the wayside by those who are supposed to love them. It tears me apart to see these children get the short end of everything. Do they only deserve the leftovers?
My son is amazing. He is one of the sweetest, most giving people I know. He’s done nothing to deserve the shortage of love that he receives from so many people in this world.
I am disappointed in people. I am disappointed that they justify their actions, by believing that these children are somehow blind to what’s happening around them. That they believe that ignoring someone is acceptable. It is not. It is never acceptable. These children have hearts that can be broken too.
If you have a child with a disability (or teach them in a school setting), please don’t overlook the fact that they have feelings too. They deserve all the same attention and love that your ‘normal’ child receives.
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