License to Behave Badly

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No situation we went through as children ever gave us the right to behave badly. No matter what was going on, we had basic expectations to uphold and never were we granted free rein to behave uncontrollably. At all times we had to be respectful and courteous to others. If we were not, then we would be disciplined.

It was our responsibility to learn how to control our emotions and not allow them to cause us to make foolish decisions. We had to control our anger, disappointment and our desire to lash out. Was it always easy? No and we failed a lot, but we knew that if we behaved badly there would be consequences to pay.

Because of our parents’ rules and the moral concepts that were taught to us, we were very careful to behave the best we could.

What happened? People are out of control.

It seems as though many parents don’t have rules anymore. Practically everywhere we go children run wildly, speak to their parents rudely and behave with no sense of respect whatsoever to those around them.

Turn on the news and you see stories of teens running through the streets attacking innocent bystanders for fun, beating up school bus drivers, looting stores and stealing merchandise right in front of store owners because they can. Then, if they get caught they blame others for their behavior.

This is where the problem lies. They don’t take responsibility for their actions. They don’t know how to. Many kids are taught from a very early age that when they go through difficult times, that their bad behavior will be excused.

I’ve seen many of these situations first-hand. Children starting as young as three are having their behavior justified by their parents. He’s slamming toys into that girl’s head because his father is working a lot lately and he’s upset about it. She’s hitting adults and kicking them because her fish died last week. He’s threatening adults by getting into their faces because his dad and I are getting divorced, or the year before that…because he has a bad teacher at school.

Did any of them get disciplined or even talked to about their behavior? No. Not at all. They were excused by their parents and allowed to continue.

What these children are being taught is that when they don’t get their way or when life seems unfair that they can behave however they choose. They can lash out, destroy things and hurt others. It doesn’t matter what they do. Life is all about them and what they want, and if they don’t get their way then they have every right to make sure that other people know that. They’ve been given a license to behave badly and most of the time they know that they’ll get away with it. So what’s to stop them?

Unfortunately, this thought pattern follows them to adulthood. Then we as a society have to pay for it. We suffer the loss of our possessions, finances, safety and even the lives of our loved ones. But it’s not only us who suffer. They do too. They throw away their potential for success. What could have been a great and joyful life, becomes nothing but a life filled with anger, bitterness and problems.

All of this, simply because children aren’t taught the basics. They are not taught to control their behavior. They are not taught values, morals, self-respect or respect for others. They are not taught honesty, obedience or courtesy. Instead, they are given a license to behave however it pleases them; to behave badly.

Future generations depend on us to teach our children basic moral concepts. We can’t rely on others to do it for us. It starts at home.

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29 Responses to License to Behave Badly

  1. Do you think we could get this piece passed out at hospitals when new babies go home with their parents? We should!

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  2. Reblogged this on anewperspectiveperhaps and commented:
    Great post from https://mewhoami.wordpress.com/.very thought provoking read. Do you agree or disagree and what is the solution?

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  3. mewhoami says:

    Thank you so much for the reblog!

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  4. Just Plain Ol' Vic says:

    Reblogged this on Just Plain Ol' Vic and commented:
    This solidly echos what I have been saying almost from day 1 of my blog! I am glad others echo my sentiments and realize there is a fundamental crisis with our society as it stands.

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  5. Ava Savage says:

    Amen! We all suffer from entitled children. And most of all the kids.

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  6. Amen to this post! We are actually crippling children, robbing them of their power, by refusing to hold them accountable for their own behavior. If nothing is ever your fault, than nothing is ever under your control either.

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    • mewhoami says:

      You are absolutely right about that. This is what causes so many people to continue in a negative lifestyle, often a cycle set by those around them. They haven’t been taught that they have control over their own lives and choices. So they get stuck in a rut and that becomes all they know.

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  7. amommasview says:

    Couldn’t agree more! A couple of years ago we stayed with friends while in the USA and they had a 3 year old at that time. One morning he got so angry because his mom gave my son the last piece of bacon before making more. He took the fork and threw it full blast (he was so aggressive) towards my son. It just missed his eye. His mom said nothing and when his dad told him off and took him to his room she started arguing with him. Her point: He is only a 3 year old… Now I tell you what: If my 3 year old would have behaved like that he would have found himself in big trouble… There’s simply no excuse for a tantrum like that.

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  8. Deborah johnson says:

    Amen and Amen!! I taught for a long time, but I’ve never thought I’d see citizens of the United States without respect for others and to see people be mean and cruel for the fun of it. I , too am scared of our own countrymen. This is why we MUST fight this war in prayer! Only God can change the hearts of men.

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  9. I can’t shout AMEN loud enough. This is a frightening change and is having huge impacts on our world.

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  10. BlackMadJick says:

    I like this post, as a mother myself I am lucky enough not to go through tantrums with both my kids even after my husband and i separated. I guess it always boils down to making sure that the children understand what is happening. it is never an excuse for your kids to go crazy if your marriage is on the rocks or their father does not have time for them. these children will grow up one day and they should already be equipped with how to manage their emotions through the parents help

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    • mewhoami says:

      You’re right that it helps if we let our children know what’s going on, also just having us there to comfort them helps a great deal too. Like you said, they need to learn as children what they will need to know as adults. It’s obvious simply by watching the news that there’s already a big issue with this. Many people never learned how to handle their emotions. It starts at home and it sounds like you’re doing a great job with yours.

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  11. Wow for a wonderful post, I agree so much.

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