Although we all have different reasons for starting a blog, there is one thing that each of us has in common. We all want to write. But, should there be a limit on what we write about? Do people sometimes forget that once they hit “publish” that their words are out there for the whole world to see and likely forever?
The other day I read a lengthy article written by a pregnant woman who was unable to connect with her unborn baby. As a reader of that article, I was left with the impression that not only did she have absolutely no feelings for her baby, but that she didn’t even want it.
That broke my heart, not for her, but for her unborn child. One day that baby will be grown and will be able to read. What if he or she reads that article? How awful that would be as a child to read those words, written by your own mother. I can’t imagine.
There are many areas in my life that I don’t write about and never plan to. Some things are better left unsaid. I’ll admit that there have been moments when I’ve been tempted to write my feelings about this situation or that, but I’m always stopped by the thought, “What if the person I’m writing about reads this? How would that make them feel?”
It’s not my place to drag people through the mud, making them look bad. It’s also not my place to spread someone’s personal business all over the internet. And it’s certainly not wise to write something that will later hurt someone else.
If we’re careful, we can still write about these situations, but without revealing the person we’re referring to. We can use fake names and places. We can leave out specific details. We can even vent our frustrations or feelings in the form of a “fictional” story. Or we can use what I call ‘abstract writing’, which is my favorite.
Writing is great and it’s an excellent form of therapy, but we should use wisdom when we choose our topics and how we write about them. The saying “think before you speak” should also apply to writing.
Not everything needs be written down. Some things are better left unsaid.