Cursing in front of your children – Most parents have done it, but is it okay? Some say yes, while others highly discourage it. Both sides have, what they feel, are valid reasons for their opinion on the matter.
One woman says, “Yes, I swear in front of my kids,” and gives her reasons:
1) It helps enhance group solidarity and serves as a mechanism for stress relief.
2.) Saying the F word or any other commonly used expletive can work to reduce physical pain.
3) It’s been suggested that people who swear are more honest and trustworthy.
4) Self-expression should always be encouraged, in all forms.
5.) Swearing around your kids actually helps to demonstrate rules of etiquette dictated by society. (In some environments it’s okay to curse, while in others it is not.)
On the other side of the debate is this woman who says, “When parents use profanity in front of children, unpleasant behaviors can result.”
To summarize her thoughts, she states that if you swear in front of your children, whether it be in conversation, pain, anger, or frustration, then you should expect them to repeat your words when they are in similar situations. In addition to them simply repeating these words, by cursing at someone when angry, you may cause your child to verbally attack others in that same way.
Others claim that people who curse on a regular basis have a limited vocabulary, and when they do so they represent themselves as immature.
“Children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” ~ Neil Postman
As parents, we should ask ourselves what type of person we want our child to grow up to be. How do we want them to speak, to behave, and to react to situations?
Based on how we’re raising our children today, what kind of society are we building for future generations?
What do you think? Is it okay to curse in front of your children? Why or why not?
(Talk about timing – Right before I hit ‘publish’, the lady next door started yelling profanities at her two young children.)