“A friend of mine has to pay $700 a month for a kid he doesn’t even want. What’s worse is that the kid is mentally disabled. Why should he have to pay for a kid like that?” Stunned by this man’s words, all I could do was stand there and listen to him.
I was in shock, speechless. Did he really just say that children with disabilities are unworthy of monetary support? That they are unequal to or less important than typical children? That they’re undeserving?” No, no one thinks like that. Do they?
Evidently they do, as that is exactly what this man was saying. The conversation soon proved that.
As I stood there biting my tongue, waiting for a calm response to enter my mind, I kept thinking, “this man has no idea that my son is Autistic.” If I told him, would it make him feel ashamed for what he said or would he even give it a second thought? For whatever reason, I chose to remain silent. I shouldn’t have. What this man said was wrong. He’s wrong.
My son is not a typical child. He is years behind his peers academically and socially, and struggles every day to form a sentence. But, he is human and is deserving just like everyone else.
Simply because a child has a disability, whether it be physical or mental, does not mean that somehow they are less human than you and I. They breathe the same air, they feel the same emotions, they have goals and dreams, fears and victories.
To say, or to even think that they are less deserving than a typical child when it comes to anything in life, is absolutely absurd. Not only that, but it’s harmful.
This type of thinking is what led Hitler to kill the mentally disabled. This mindset has convinced many people across the world that it’s acceptable, even needful, to keep these children tied up or kept hidden away in small rooms within their homes. It’s this type of thinking that is making its way into hospitals and minds across the globe, convincing parents to abort their children for no other reason than a minor disability, or just because.
This child that the man was speaking about, is just as deserving as every other kid out there. To think otherwise is downright horrible and for the child, very saddening.
Having raised my son for 16 years now and after seeing what an amazing and loving young man he is, I cannot fathom the idea of him somehow being deemed as less human. In fact, he is more human than anyone I’ve ever known.
Is he worthy of support? I certainly think so.
What do you think? Should the child support laws be different for children with disabilities compared to that of typical children?
Let your voice be heard below. I’d love to hear your thoughts.