Is there a part of your life that you keep secret from your friends and loved ones? Perhaps it’s a habit you have, an illness, unruly children, or a rocky relationship. Although it would bring us a sense of relief to confide in someone, we instead choose to remain silent.
Is it because we don’t want others to judge us? Are we embarrassed? Is it because we don’t want to cause people stress or worry? Do we believe that no one would understand? Or, is it because we have the false belief that everyone else has a “perfect” life too?
We only show people what we want them to see; what we allow them to see. We show them the good parts of our life, while hiding the rest.
We discuss our children’s achievements, not the tantrums they throw. We talk about how amazing our spouse is, not how easily angered they are. We say that we’re feeling great, when really our bodies are struggling more than ever. We smile about the wonderful day we had, while hiding the fact that we spent most of it worrying and in tears.
Don’t we realize that no one‘s life is perfect? Everyone has problems. We may smile and laugh, and only discuss the positive sides of life, but that doesn’t mean that there are not negative sides as well.
Although it may be easier to keep our issues silent, it’s not always the healthiest choice. Sometimes we need to confide in someone; a person we can talk to without the fear of judgement or ridicule.
It’s okay to have problems. Everyone does.
We should never be ashamed for having an imperfect life.
“If the secret sorrows of everyone could be read on their forehead, how many who now cause envy would suddenly become the objects of pity.” ~ Italian Proverb