A few weeks ago, there was a discussion on someone’s blog about depression. Forgive me for not remembering where exactly that was, right now. The topic was focused on how people are afraid to tell others when they are going through difficult times, out of fear of being judged. Others stay silent simply because they don’t believe that anyone can help them.
We (I think it was on A Momma’s View), discussed the importance of not only speaking up when we ourselves are depressed, but also listening to and reaching out to others who are.
So often, people get shrugged off when they are hurting, by being told pointless things like, “It’ll get better. It could be worse. Everyone goes through hard times.” These statements do absolutely no good to those who are truly struggling. They don’t need to be told that things will get better. They need help.
So, what if you they do come to you for help and you do all that you know to do? You’re there for them. You give the advice they’re seeking. You offer your time, assistance and companionship. You point them to resources that may help them. You do everything that you can think of.
But…the worst still happens.
Is it because what we think should help, isn’t even close to what they really need? Is it because deep down they had already made their final decision?
If we’ve done all we can think of and nothing prevents the worst from happening, is there anything else that could have been done?
I don’t know.
But, I do know this – If we have done all that we know to do. If we have reached out. If we have offered our hand, our help, our guidance and resources, then we can’t allow ourselves to carry around guilt or questions of “what-if”. Sadly, sometimes the worst does happen and no matter what we could have done, nothing would have prevented it.
If you need help, please get help now. Don’t wait until you’re so deep in the pit that no light can penetrate it. Your life will most likely look very different in five years from now and you’ll be so thankful that you held on.
Life is worth living. Don’t let go.