It’s not easy to forgive someone who has done you wrong. Many times it may be the last thing on earth you want to do. Forgiveness does not mean that you forget what happened. Nor does it mean that you accept it or approve of it. It simply means that you choose to move on. You choose to be free.
Living with resentment in your heart is a form of self-imprisonment. Why would anyone choose to live that way?
That’s a question I’ve always asked. Oftentimes, I hear people speak about the many wrongs that have been done to them by others. They may not admit that they’re holding onto bitterness, but their tone tells it all. Over and over again, they vent over the same situations and each time their anger is rekindled.
They are constantly poisoning themselves, by feeding off of expired events. Then, they wonder why they’re not happy.
Why won’t they let it go?
Maybe you’re thinking… “Easy for you to say. You’ve probably never gone through anything.” Wrong. I’ve gone through plenty; awful situations, some of which have never been revealed.
Although those situations were hurtful and difficult to endure, even as a child, I knew that I had a choice to make. I could either let them ruin me or I could let them go and perhaps even use them to help others who go through similar situations.
The person already caused enough hurt, so why should I allow them to hurt me even more, by holding onto what happened? Resentment and anger toward those who hurt me, doesn’t hurt them. It only hurts me.
Instead of being resentful, I chose to forgive them. That doesn’t mean that their wrong-doings were justified. It simply means that I wasn’t going to let them effect my future.
Forgiveness toward those hurt us is not for their benefit, but for our own.
It may not be easy to forgive others, but if you want freedom, then that is where you’ll find it.
This post is in response to the Daily Post prompt: I Can’t Stay Mad at You