Would you rather commit yourself to marriage or live a life of dating? This question is inspired by a rather interesting conversation I had yesterday with a fellow blogger on an old (but sadly, very popular) post I wrote entitled, ‘When Love Turns to Hate‘.
I’ve always assumed that most people would want to commit to marriage, at least at some point in their lives. But, perhaps I’m wrong. Maybe there are some who would rather avoid commitment altogether and date instead.
Pasted below is that portion of our conversation. After reading it, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the matter.
Me: …There will still be problems of course, but having a steady marriage is much better than jumping from one relationship to the other.
Bolt: Some would disagree. Some who dodge marriage and flit from one person to the next might argue that their life is just as pleasurable without the concerns that come with commitment and broken ties.
Me: Perhaps you’re right, in that some people would like to have the freedom to date whomever they choose, rather than be committed to one person. But, I think that in the long run most people would rather know that they have someone at home who is committed to them and who they can count on to still be there tomorrow. There is safety in that. People may say they enjoy ‘freedom’, but with that freedom there is so much that they miss out on, in my opinion.
Bolt: Indeed, there is little to no romance in remaining single. Not to mention, how many start repeating the same “tricks” with every date? Pretty soon, people are talking, and your style is fingerprinted. Don’t date that guy; he gives every gal a rose to make them think they are special.
Bolt is certainly right about the dating scene. It can certainly get old after a while and those dating tricks become easier and easier to spot, and sometimes they’re quite funny.
But, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Based on your experiences, what do you think? Is marriage worth the risks involved? Or is living a life of dating easier?
What causes people to resist the idea of marriage?