Important Pieces of Life


Many experiences leading from my childhood to young adulthood still haunt me to this day when I think back on them. I can still feel the fear, sadness and confusion, just as I felt so many years ago when the events took place.

Events that left me crying and shaking in fear for nights on end. Other events that caused me to arrive at work wide-eyed, in disbelief and horror at what had just happened. I recall the silent screams in rooms full of people, with thoughts of “why?” playing through my head.

I’ll never forget those moments of wanting so badly to have the courage to confess everything to my mother, my father, to anyone who would listen. But, I never did. I remained silent.

Some stories were never written. A few have never been told. They have been kept, buried within me for no one to discover.

The pain I felt was real and sometimes terrible, brought on by those I knew and by those I didn’t. Situations that no one should ever have to go through.

However, as odd as it may sound, I am thankful for all of it. Would I ask to go through it all again? No, certainly not. But I also realize that without all those experiences, even as awful as they were, I would be missing important pieces that make me who I am today.

Everything that has ever happened to me has provided a lesson, insight and understanding. It has helped me to become more compassionate, loving and giving toward others. It has also taught me how to forgive.

Sometimes we may think that there is nothing to be learned from a certain experience and perhaps we’re right. Maybe the lesson isn’t for us, but for someone else instead. Sometimes we may go through things just so that we can help others. People who will need to hear our stories and how we overcame them, so that they can do the same. How could we ever help anyone if we’ve never gone through anything?

For all those reasons, even if I could, I wouldn’t change anything from my past – neither the experiences or the people.

The pain that we go through can destroy us, if we let it. But, it can also better us and give others the hope that they may so desperately need.

There is much more to life than what we see.


The inspiration for this post came from a thought provoking post and discussion at A Momma’s View, which I highly recommend reading.


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32 Responses to Important Pieces of Life

  1. I agree with you 100%! The journey is not always easy but I can look back and see who it made me today and I love who I am today. Bless you for sharing!

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  2. George says:

    Every chapter of our lives have shaped who we are today. We can’t turn away from our mistakes . Sometimes those wrongs just have to be left on their own so we can move on and enjoy life as much as possible.


  3. So true. What we make of ourselves after the trauma and the mistakes and yes, the unfairness of life, is what matters the most.


  4. DailyMusings says:

    It is sad when the events during childhood scar a person deeply for life- in how they connect with people, maintain relationships, even just how they will perceive a situation differently from someone who has not suffered abuse. I have a friend who has come so far from healing from verbal abuse hurled at her as a child, but it has shaped the person she is today. I always keep in her in mind when I see someone struggling with something- we all have a back story- some are fairytale like and for others, bad drama


    • mewhoami says:

      We sure do. Everyone we meet has a story. I think that that’s why we should remember to always be compassionate toward others. We never know what they’ve gone through or maybe are going through now. I firmly believe that bad things can have a positive effect on our lives, if we let it.

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  5. amommasview says:

    You’ve got a great point there… Sometimes the lesson is not for us but for others… A good way to look at things! Thanks for this eye opener!

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  6. There is SO much for us to grow from. And some of it is manure. What a great post MeWhoAmI.

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  7. April says:

    This is very inspirational for me. You said it so beautifully.

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  8. A.PROMPTreply says:

    Uplifting and motivating. You seem to have flourished even against strong odds!


  9. Janice Wald says:

    I know Masgauten and Opinionated Man Jason Cushman. I met you on Danny Ray’s July meet and Greet. I also know A Momma’s View and A Prompt reply.
    Many people that have pain find solace in writing. It sounds like you have as well.
    You indicated you appreciated meeting new bloggers, so I came over. Nice to meet you.

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    • mewhoami says:

      What a small world! Just one more reason I love our community here. 🙂 Glad to have you drop by. I have found solace in writing and also just in living. I think that life over time, has a way of bringing sense and understanding out of the things that happen. Life teaches us a lot, if we listen. I hope to see you back, Janice. Thank you for your comment.


  10. Your tags tell a story on their own. I’m glad you survived, but so sorry that you had something to survive. Have you seen the blog Stories That Must Not Die? You can post anonymously. It might help you, and it might help others, too.

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    • mewhoami says:

      Some tags fit the story and others don’t, as I was trying to reach an audience who may need it. Other tags weren’t used at all because they would reveal too much and then my secrets wouldn’t be secrets anymore. Thank you. I am glad too. Looking back, many things could have destroyed me if I let them. I’m glad it wasn’t that way. The blog you mentioned is one that I’ve never heard of. I’ll check it out. It sounds interesting.


  11. I can’t say anything that hasn’t been mentioned, but wanted to let you know anyway that I liked this post – you are right, we wouldn’t want to go through it again, but it all makes us who we are today and able to handle the other challenges life throws our way!

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  12. You are right and we need to learn to overcome our past to be able to go on.


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  14. very nice! I cannot find your email you left me, would you mind to send it again! Thanks so much, have been looking through posts all morning!!


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