Have you ever met someone who thinks that the whole world should revolve around them? They behave in a way that says, “What matters is my happiness. My success. My feelings. It’s my way or the highway.” Why do people behave that way?
When something good happens to someone we should rejoice with them, not resent them. Here are some real life examples…
Your friend just got a substantial pay raise. Be happy for him! Don’t frown at him and walk away because you haven’t gotten one in years.
Your friend got a new car. Good for them! Don’t criticize them for how they spend their money, just because you can’t afford a new one.
Your friend is due to have her third child. Congratulate her! Don’t walk away pouting without even giving her a smile, because she’s had three and you’ve had none.
Your friend is thrilled to be getting married for the second time, after a failed first marriage years ago. Be happy for her! Don’t refuse to attend her wedding, because of how “unfair” it is that she’s already had that experience once, but you never have.
Wait…these are their friends? That’s what they claim.
What is a friend? A friend is someone who smiles with you, is happy for you and rejoices with you. What a friend is not, is jealous, envious or resentful. Friend or not, we should be happy for others when good things happen to them, regardless of our own wants and needs. Their happiness is not about us. It’s about them.
Shouldn’t we want others to be happy?
There will always be someone who has something that we don’t, or something that we want, but that doesn’t give us the liberty to be angry at them because of it.
How we respond when others experience success says a lot about our character.