Do you ever wonder what your kids do after you put them to bed? We know they don’t normally go to sleep right away because we can hear them moving around and sometimes even talking and giggling with their invisible friends. We assume though that within a few minutes they will fall asleep. But, do they?
The other morning I woke up, made coffee and read a few posts, which is my morning routine. As I neared the end of my second cup of coffee, I wondered when my son would finally emerge from his room. He went to bed at 11pm and now it was after 9am.
An hour went by and no sound from him. Another hour and still nothing. At that point I decided to go check on him. Slowly cracking the door open, I peeked inside and saw him bundled up in his blanket. He didn’t stir at all.
I decided to give him thirty more minutes. As I began to close the door, the light from his computer caught my eye. I clearly remembered him turning it off the night before. I walked over, turned on the monitor and saw that there was a game paused on the screen. “When did he get up to play?” I wondered.
Thirty minutes later, I came back to wake him. After giving him a minute to open his eyes, I asked him about his night. Come to find out, he got up shortly after I went to bed at midnight, to play on his computer.
“What time did you go back to bed then?” I asked him.
“An hour or two later.” He replied.
“An hour or two…Okay. What time did you go back to bed?”
“At 5.”
“That’s not an hour or two later!”
He was up until 5am? No wonder he was still sleeping. Goes to show that what we think our children are doing, may not be what they’re doing at all.
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Yeah, I remember that kind of thing. Another favorite was drawing all night. “But I couldn’t sleep!” Argh!
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I like the idea of drawing much better than playing computer games all night. I used to do that as a child too, and writing of course.
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Yep, I’ve got one who I suspect is up half the night every night. So frustrating!
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How are we supposed to know? Unless of course we connect a camera in their room.
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Now there’s a scary thought. We’d never get any sleep!
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True. Plus, I really don’t think I want to know everything.
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Too funny! With my son it was reading, with my daughter it was drawing or writing.
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At least your kids were doing something a bit more productive. 🙂
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The solution is simple, albeit it may be a bit of hassle for you. Set a password on the computer in his bedroom and don’t share that password with him. Then, once he shuts down the computer at bedtime (or, to be safe, you shut it down), if he wants to get up and use the computer after bedtime, unless he knows the log-in password, he won’t be able to. So he may just go back to bed and go to sleep. Just a thought.
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Good idea, Doobster. I think before I do that, that I will set his desk up in a way that I will know if he touched anything while I was asleep. The only reason for that is because I like him to have the freedom. However, if I find that he’s still staying up then I will definitely lock it with a password as you suggested.
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Small steps. Makes sense.
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Haha. You just can’t be up to them. In this house there is no online Sunday to Friday. I am a late night person, so unexpectedly I appear in their room and I make a real big thing about ‘trust’ and letting me down. So even if they do go online they can’t really enjoy it.
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Making kids realize the importance of trust is crucial. My mom did the same with me and the one thing I never wanted to do was to ruin it. I do the same with my son. It’s just that I’ve never told him *not* to get up in the middle of the night to play. Since I like sleep so much I never thought that someone would actually want to do that, so the thought never came to mind.
I like the Sun – Fri policy. We limit his time a lot during the week, but he’s been on Christmas break so he’s been a little spoiled. But, back to the grind on Monday! 🙂
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Hah, so true! I’ve had one, and still have another one at home, who read into the night and then wonder why they’re so tired. I can’t complain too much, they get it earnestly!
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At least they’re reading, right? It could be worse. Plus, who knows – maybe they’ll be authors one day!
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My son has had problems sleeping all his life. Often, as a kid, he would lay there for hours not sleeping. I have no idea as to what was so intriguing for him to think about but, according to him, that’s what he was doing.
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I know that even for me, sometimes it can be hard to shut the mind down in order to sleep. I wonder if writing in a journal before bed would have helped him, so that he could get his thoughts out on paper and remove them from his mind.
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😀 At least he finally spilled the beans.
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He would have gotten away with it had he not left his computer on. Silly kid.
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Oh I remember these things! But my kids were so sleep needy that it seldom happened. 🙂
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That’s a good thing. I think that all kids would appreciate sleep more if they realized how precious it is and that when they become adults it’s not so easy to come by.
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Mine are at THAT age now! 🙂
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Scary isn’t it! i know my eldest and youngest used to go on their PC’s until late but we did not have internet until the eldest was about 16yrs ( He is 41yrs now, always written computer programs from the age of about 8yrs!) They also used to listen to Talk Radio all night at times! Then when he was abot 14yrs the middle lad run up a huge phone bill listening to cricket scores all night!!….. Our house is quieter at night now they have grown and left home! I wander what girls do.??
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It was definitely a lot safer before the internet. Now days parents have to be very observant of their children’s actions while on the computer. I can’t imagine your reaction after finding out about your phone bill. Girls stay up late too, but I only know that because I did it. But my time was spent drawing and writing.
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I used to read whenever i could!! I do agree it is so dangerous now so many nasty people out there ready to groom or bully!! Life is so less simple these days!
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I agree! I wish we could go back to the ‘good ol’ days’.
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Thank you very much! I’ll go check it out.
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🙂
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I have a night owl. During the school holidays (and even on school nights), getting her to bed before 10pm is difficult. She watches tv and plays on her iPad. So once she goes to bed, I know she’s out like a light. lol
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She wears herself out, eh? At least then she sleeps. How is she in the morning though? I think that’s what my son did the other day too. He was passed out, with everything still on. 🙂
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She has her before-school morning routine condensed into half an hour. This enables her to sleep in of a morning. lol
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