I am fully capable of opening my own door, taking out my own trash and carrying my own grocery bags. I don’t need a man to do those things for me. But when they do or even offer to do so, I am grateful. Why would I not be?
A person, whether male or female, who goes out of their way to do something for another should be appreciated. They shouldn’t be scolded or frowned upon for being courteous. Offering to help someone doesn’t mean that that person thinks that the other is incapable or unequal to them. It simply means that they want to help and care enough to do so.
As we look around, it’s not difficult to see that politeness is becoming a lost art, and rarely do we see gentleman anymore. It is more common to see a man closing a door in a woman’s face, than to see him hold it open for her. It is more common to see a man walking with a phone in his hand, while his wife is loaded down with a child in a car seat, grocery bags, and a diaper bag thrown over her shoulder, than it is to see him sharing the load.
Because of that, when a man offers to help we should be thankful. We certainly shouldn’t be offended. Back in the day, men were taught chivalry from a young age and by the example of their fathers. Now days, I’m not exactly sure what they’re taught, but in most cases it’s not chivalry.
Sadly, some men who were taught this soon become hesitant to offer their help because of the negative reactions that they get when they do. One thing, among many, that I don’t understand about some women is that they get offended when men try to help them, but it is perfectly acceptable when another woman does. In both situations the person is being polite, so what’s the difference?
Personally, I appreciate anyone who is thoughtful enough to consider those around them. So on that note…
To women who offer their help to others – thank you. Your kindness is greatly appreciated.
To all those gentlemen out there – please don’t let negative responses stop you from being courteous to women. There are many of us who still appreciate it.