Something About Turning 30

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From a very young age I can remember wanting to grow older. As a child, I wanted to be a teenager. Teens had more freedom, or so I thought. Then I wanted to turn sixteen so I could drive.

The next milestone was eighteen; the year I would officially be an adult. The morning of my eighteenth birthday I was certain that in the mirror I would see a woman looking back at me. Much to my disappointment, the same girl I met there the night before was the same girl standing before me that morning.

Twenty-one was next on the list, and then twenty-five. Even with the ability to drink (legally) at twenty-one and the lowered car insurance at twenty-five, I still didn’t feel like an adult. Not only did I not feel like one, but others considered me to be a kid too. “Oh you’re still a kid,” they would say.

That all changed when I turned thirty. Something about being in my thirties made me feel like a grown up. I even remember making the statement, “I’m an adult now.” No longer during conversations with people older than me, was I perceived as a kid. Instead, they considered me to be on level playing ground with them.

It was also that year that I began to look back on life, what all I had accomplished and what I had not. Where I had fallen short and where I had succeeded. Not only did I assess my outward accomplishments, but also who I was in general.

Up to that point I had been treating life much like a game; primarily by making hasty decisions and running from problems, which I was good at. But something about turning thirty caused me to realize that life wasn’t a game, and that it was time I grew up. It was time to take life seriously, and stop running every time things got hard.

Even though now, a few years later, I still behave like a kid at times and occasionally make poor decisions, at least I can finally say that I’m a grown up. Because of that, I’ve enjoyed my thirties.

But now forty is creeping up, a little too soon for my liking. I wonder how grown up I’ll feel then. Perhaps those will be the best years of my life, or maybe I’ll just get (more) gray hairs.


This post is in response to The Daily Post prompt: All Grown Up

When was the first time you really felt like a grown up (if ever)?

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33 Responses to Something About Turning 30

  1. Seriously, it only gets better… with attitude and mind-set. 🙂 Age is simply a number, one to which some people anchor.

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  2. dodgysurfer says:

    I felt the same at 30. By 40 I didn’t care anymore and it was great. 50, however, was crap! 🙂

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  3. markbialczak says:

    When I turned 50, I finally thought, Holy Crap!, Me Who. The other round numbers struck me as more gradual growth ledges to take a moment to look around and refect on this climb we call life. Then it was my 50th birthday, and I finally admitted that I was playing the back nine instead of the front nine.

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  4. Interesting how people react to “that” number and “that” number is different for each of us. For me, 40 knocked me down, it just sounded so OLD!! Each year since then has had it’s own blessings and challenges and generally it has kept getting better! But ask me in a few years when I hit the next big milestone!!

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    • mewhoami says:

      It is interesting how we each have our different year. It’s good to know that even though turning 40 was a shock to you, that it’s turned out so well. It goes to show that life is not always what we expect.

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  5. stormy1812 says:

    There is definitely something about 30. I know for me it’s made me feel old and like I’ve wasted life to this point but getting on track has been anything but easy. Some of that may be that I’m not as far along in my career as I figured I would be AND the vast majority of my friends are married and/or are having kids and I’m single and it feels like still living in college – oddly enough that makes me feel old because I’m in my 30s but haven’t gotten past a certain stage of life. There are also have been setbacks that started immediately after turning 30 and it’s been a bumpy ride since. I guess I always thought I’d have life figured out by now, that I’d be exactly where I wanted to be and it hasn’t worked out like that. I’m trying very hard to right the ship for the rest of 33 so I can enjoy my 30s instead of hating them lol. I don’t want to actually waste time due to a mindset if there is time still to be had. It’s hard changing a mindset though. 🙂 Great post!

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    • mewhoami says:

      It is hard changing a mindset, but not impossible.Just remember that everyone’s success is defined differently. What makes one person successful in life may be totally different than someone is. Success is not defined by our relationship status, how many kids we have and our job. Rather, it’s about who we have become, who we are and how we live our lives. So even though you may not have what other do, doesn’t mean that what you do have is of any less importance. Plus, 30s is still young. You’ve got plenty of time left. Also, it’s much better to be single than to be with the wrong one. Good things are worth waiting for.

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      • stormy1812 says:

        Lordy I’m so bad about comparing myself to others lol. I know it’s bad but like the moth to the flame I can’t get myself to stop lol. It will have to happen now though because it just drives one nuts! I’d like to think I’m finally ready to accept and move on or better yet, focus on my world and what makes it turn in stead of how it works for others. 🙂 Happy New Year!

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  6. I love the 40s. I’ll let you discover why but the journey gets more exciting 🙂

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  7. sheldonk2014 says:

    Experience and exposure is the best teacher, just be patient, the yrs do not matter, it’s all a process by which we learn

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  8. I feel at 50 the aging process has started. But the grown up years have not. 🙂

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  9. I’m getting closer to 40 which freaks me out. I still feel like I’m in my twenties in a lot of ways, especially since we don’t have kids. It’s hard to think I could have a teenager right now!

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    • mewhoami says:

      Creeping towards 40 is a scary thought, I agree. I’ve found the same thing as you – that it’s hard to grasp not being in my twenties anymore. It doesn’t seem like that long ago until I actually count back. Hey, not having a teenager right now isn’t a bad thing. Think of all the late nights you’re not up worrying. 🙂

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  10. April says:

    I remember looking forward to 25 in order to be taken more seriously. Thirty years later, I’m still waiting to be taken seriously. 😀 I’m usually shocked when I acknowledge my true age, but only because I feel like some of it was wasted in a bad mental place. I’m not bothered anymore. After the cancer diagnosis, I’m thankful for each day I wake up. Depression was making it frustrating for me to appreciate life–which would make depression worse. Anyway…I may be approaching the age when I’ll be receiving a senior discount, but I want to enjoy each and every day of it. The discount will be a bonus!

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    • mewhoami says:

      What will it take to be taken seriously? When we’re 20, we’re not and when we’re 80 we’re not. Oh well, what is a person to do? Might as well get out our silly outfits and make the most of it. 🙂 Having a life-threatening diagnosis is a rough, but eye-opening experience. As you said, it causes us to appreciate ever single day. It’s easy to take life for granted, until we’re at risk of losing it. It’s good that you’ve been able to take something positive from something so terrible. And yay for the discount! That’s something to celebrate. 🙂

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  11. Rookienotes says:

    Man, I hope by the time I am 30 I will feel like I’ve accomplished what my 23 year old self desires

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  12. suzjones says:

    My 30th birthday was a turning point in my life. It was then that I realised that my life could be more than what it was. I left my husband a few days later and I haven’t looked back. Sure life has thrown me some curveballs and heartache but turning 30 was the best thing I ever did! 😀
    This year is my 50th. Life is still going on.

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    • mewhoami says:

      It sounds like you made some very positive changes at 30. Sometimes it takes a reality check (such as aging) to cause us to finally make decisions that perhaps we should have made long before. I’m glad to know that, although hard at times, that life is so much better now. And congrats on 50…that’s a great milestone reach! Something to be very grateful for.

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