People are going to believe what they are going to believe. No perfectly articulated sentence, or magic potion will change their mind. A person will only change their mind, or gain a different perspective when they are ready.
We can’t change people, nor can we change their way of thinking. We may be able to influence them, but real change comes from a change of mind within them.
It’s difficult for people to see themselves. It’s much easier for them to see everyone else. Turn on the news for two minutes, and what do you see? A blame game. From politicians to shootings to school dress codes, there’s a blame game being played.
Take a walk down the street, listen to a married couple, stroll through the store, and you will hear it: the blame game.
Everyone wants to blame someone and no wants to blame themselves. No one wants to accept responsibility for their actions, or the situation that they find themselves in. That’s a problem. What’s worse is that its reach goes well beyond the person at hand. When one person forces their faults onto someone else, it can impact a whole range of people.
The solution – a change of mind.
In order for anyone to change, they must be able to see themselves for who they are, and not for who they think they are. Most people can’t even process the thought, “Maybe it’s me. Maybe I’m the one whose thinking is wrong. Maybe I’m the one who needs to change.”
Why can’t people see themselves? Have they been raised to believe that they can do no wrong? Have they convinced themselves that everyone is out to get them? Were they taught that the world owes them? Or maybe it was a slow process, brought on by situations, hurt and misunderstandings.
Have they formed their mindset to a point to where it’s irreversible? I’d like to believe that everyone is capable of change. Whether or not they will however, is the question.
Trying to reason with people can be exhausting. So if it’s not working, stop. Just let them be. Don’t invite yourself to their party.
And don’t worry, life has a way of accomplishing what we can’t.