We Have a Choice

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How did you wake up this morning? Did you wake up frustrated, or happy? Do you believe that you had a choice in what mood you would wake up in? I do.

A few years ago a man asked me, “Are you going to have a good day today?” He didn’t tell me to have a good day as most people do during conversation. He asked me if I was going to. By doing so, he made me realize that I had a choice over the matter. It is my choice whether I will have a good day or a bad one.

Don’t get me wrong, tragedies happen that we have no control over. However, on a typical day most of us (excluding those who struggle with depression, bipolar disorder, etc) have a choice on how we will spend it. If we want to be angry, we can be. On the contrary, if we want to smile and be joyful, we can do that too.

We all know that life can be very difficult at times and can throw us around like rag dolls. People attack us and hurt us, we lose jobs, struggle financially and loved ones pass away. Things happen all the time, but we can make our situations much worse if we allow ourselves to. No matter what hardships come our way, we have a choice as to how we will respond. That’s a choice that each of us are freely given.

Having a positive attitude may not be the cure to all of our problems, but one thing’s for sure – moping, complaining and being angry will never accomplish anything.

Love is a choice. Anger is also a choice, and for most of us so is happiness.

Anger… I can let someone make me angry. All I have to do is dwell on their words, actions or facial expressions. Within seconds, my blood can be boiling. Becoming angry is easy. What’s not so easy, is not becoming angry. I heard a saying once and it’s one that I firmly believe; “He who angers you, controls you.” No one makes you angry. You allow yourself to become angry.

It takes a lot of self control to say, “I choose not to be angry with you.” But it can be done, and the pay off is much greater than the alternative.

Love… Love is also a choice.Ā (excluding abusive, harmful relationships, etc)

We can either decide to love someone, or decide not to. To make ourselves stop loving someone is not hard to do at all. All it takes is focusing on their flaws, annoying habits and irritating traits. Eventually, their flaws become all that we can see in them. Sometimes we even go so far as to create flaws in them that don’t even exist. We can make ourselves see, hear and believe whatever we want. The mind is a powerful thing.

By having this backward focus, we become blind to all the qualities and traits that caused us to love them in the first place. Again, it’s a choice. We can either allow those little things to grow into monsters, or we can push them away and replace them with good qualities.

Happiness… Once we learn that we are in control of how we respond to situations, we will also learn that we are in control of our overall happiness. Nothing and no one can make us happy. They can contribute to our happiness, but true happiness comes from within. It’s a peace within ourselves, that we create. A peace that we have control over.

What it really all boils down to, is priorities. At the end of this road called life, what will truly matter? What will hold the most significance? What’s really important?

We only get one life, so we should be careful not to waste it.

Share a smile, forgive others and most of all…love.

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26 Responses to We Have a Choice

  1. LindaGHill says:

    I wholeheartedly agree. Excellent post, my dear. šŸ™‚

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  2. Love this one! I have to share it šŸ™‚

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  3. 50djohnson says:

    So, so true!!! šŸ™‚

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  4. I was just thinking about this very topic today. I want to send this reminder to my daughter. Often times she waits and sees what something will “give” her of provide for her and then is disappointed when it doesn’t. I need to remind her that it’s about what she makes of things. Nothing is owed to you, no one else is responsible for your fun or happiness. It is all up to what you do with it and what you make out of a situation. Great post!

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    • mewhoami says:

      Thank you very much for this comment. I believe that many people are in a similar situation as your daughter. It’s hard for some to realize that their life is in great part dependent on their own choices. Our life is what we make it. Please feel free to share it with whoever you’d like.

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  5. Barry says:

    I don’t have much choice on how my day will turn out as I have migraines some twenty plus days per month. However I do make the most of the quality time I have. Life is still full of wonder, and I’m grateful for what I have. Family and friends in small doses, sunsets, the dawn chorus, thunderstorms, an aromatic flat white, frolicking lambs, and more. Life is amazing.

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    • mewhoami says:

      We can certainly make our situation worse by causing our mood to match our pain. It’s great that you make the most out of life, even beyond the pain. You are right that life is full of wonder and beauty. So often we overlook those things and take them for granted. But when we sit down and study the world around us, we see just how much of a gift life truly is.

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  6. Claudiu C. says:

    I tend to visualise anger as eating me from the inside, like an apple when it’s rotten. Then I quickly try to eliminate it.

    Thank you for the post.

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    • mewhoami says:

      That’s a great visualization, because that’s exactly what anger does. It hurts the one who is angry, many times much more than the one that they are angry at. It’s rather useless most of the time and can damage a person mentally and physically.

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  7. scarlettmorrison10 says:

    Really enjoyed reading this! Made a big difference to my Tuesday morning šŸ™‚

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  8. April says:

    Thank you for recognizing the depressed and bipolar. It is extremely frustrating to logically know that something is right or wrong, but no matter how hard we try, we are robbed of the choice.

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    • mewhoami says:

      You were a big part in teaching me that lesson. A year ago, I wouldn’t have excluded those categories. So, thank you for helping me to understand that. I cannot imagine how frustrating that must be. It’s hard not to be in control, especially of one’s self.

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      • April says:

        I’ve learned a lot too. I’ve learned that I can manage my illness in order to have the ability to choose what I want to believe or how to live. While I don’t expect that I will never have another bout of depression, I know that while I’m ‘here’, I can choose many things that will make me healthier so that maybe I won’t have such a deep episode when there seems to be no hope left.

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        • mewhoami says:

          That is wonderfully terrific to hear. šŸ™‚ Many people refuse to learn, to change or to better themselves. Just the fact that you are able to see these things now makes a world of difference.

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          • April says:

            I know, and that makes me sad. I understand that there are people who are stuck and don’t know where to turn. My hope is that they have someone in their lives that will recognize and support them to receive any help needed.

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  9. Very true! I do a daily challenge and we have to log on, read the challenge, do it and report back -and I like to wish all my partners well – and tell them “Make it a great day!” because it is a choice. We have to be stronger than the world around us and not give away our power. šŸ™‚

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    • mewhoami says:

      That sounds like a very intriguing challenge. I like how you said “not give away our power”. That’s exactly what we do when we allow the situations around us to control our thoughts, emotions and responses.

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  10. suzjones says:

    Right on target my friend. šŸ™‚

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  11. OGValGal says:

    So right on!! Yes. We have choices!!

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