This life. Who is it about? You or others? Throughout my life, I’ve always been a people pleaser. I’ll go wherever, do whatever (within reason) and sacrifice what I must, in order to please those around me.
Yesterday I was talking to a fellow people pleaser. She spoke of how her good intentions are always interpreted incorrectly. People see her good deeds as unthoughtful and rude. I could easily ask, “How can that be?” except for the fact that the same thing happens to me.
There have been times when I’ve tried to help others, and I’m accused of treating them as though they are incapable. Times where I’ve run out to get items for people to make them happy, and then accused for trying to sabotage their day. I could make a list a page long if I wanted to, but I’m short on time.
The woman I was talking to asked if that is why I’m such an introvert. I suppose it is. If a person frequently gets reprimanded when they’re being kind, then why even try? When around those people, it’s easier to just shut down.
What I’ve learned, is that it’s impossible to please others. We should always be kind and loving to others, but it’s not our job to please them.
Are you a people pleaser? If so, where is the line when it comes to pleasing others?