You Are Not Them

peopleHave you ever felt like you had to compete with those around you, or that you weren’t good enough? Maybe you brought this feeling upon yourself, or perhaps it was brought on by someone else. In a recent conversation, a middle aged woman mentioned that her relative makes frequent comments about her appearance.

“You wear the same style shirt all the time. Your accessories are too flashy. What happened to your hair? Makeup would fix that.” While we’re at it, let’s not forget the media’s constant promotion of size 0. This is what is wrong with society. This is a major cause of why people starve themselves, hide in the darkness, get plastic surgery and commit suicide.

Why do people feel that they have to look a certain way, or dress according to what’s ‘in style’? What style? Clothes are clothes. There is no such thing as the fashion police, so fret not. You will not be ticketed for wearing whatever is comfortable to you.

If you wear your hair straight and everyone else has curls, who cares? It’s your hair. Wear it how you like it. After all, it’s on your head, not theirs. If you want to go without makeup, then so be it. At least your reflection won’t surprise you in the morning. It also won’t surprise the person who wakes up next to you.

Fresh faced beauty is, in my opinion, the best anyway. Enjoy the freedom! Why are people so afraid to be themselves? Men don’t wear makeup (well most don’t) and they’re handsome just the way they are. You should be happy with the real you.

Criticizing people for their appearance or attire is what causes them to lose self esteem. They are made to feel that they are not good enough, often times by their own family or friends. Those are the people who are supposed to be encouraging you, not destroying you.

When people are so quick to criticize others, is it because they are not happy with themselves? I think so. The ones who are the most critical, are usually the same ones who are terrified of people seeing them in their natural state. Unfortunately, some people push others down in an effort to lift themselves up. That’s not the way it should be. There is no right way to look and no one has the right to tell you any different. Not your friends, family or the media.

People are made to be different. There is no one else in this entire world exactly like you, and that is wonderful!

If someone criticizes you, remember that you are not them and you are not supposed to be. You are you. You are uniquely beautiful.

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26 Responses to You Are Not Them

  1. I couldn’t agree more! Preach it 🙂


  2. Great post! I’m currently working on not comparing myself to others. Having said that – I’ve been working on it for over a year… :/ LOL.


    • mewhoami says:

      Thank you. It is a challenge and for some (many), an on-going one. I enjoyed your similar post regarding New Year’s resolutions. It’s good to know that there are people out there still seeking self improvement. We could all use some improvements here and there.


  3. Doobster418 says:

    I don’t really care what style of clothing someone is wearing, how they wear their hair, or how attractive they are or are not. The only thing that bothers me is a lack of personal hygiene. Dirty, grimy hair, dirty, grimy clothes, and a strong body odor. That is inexcusable, in my opinion, anyway.


    • mewhoami says:

      I completely agree with you. There is no excuse for bad hygiene, especially if you have a home with a shower in it. Sadly, I know people like that. People that don’t pay any attention to their hygiene whatsoever. It’s disgusting.


  4. AMEN! BRAVO!!!! and thank you.


  5. Jenna Dee says:

    I completely agree with you. Great post, thanks for sharing. Love Jenna


  6. suzjones says:

    I’m with Kate although I’ve probably been working on it for much longer.


  7. Glynis Jolly says:

    I think you’re right about some people who criticize so much. That said however, they aren’t always the ones trying to conceal who they really are. Often they’re people who don’t want to take the time to take care of themselves and/or are trying to proved that what they do is some much better than what anyone else does. In other words, they’re trying to pull you down to their level.


  8. sothislife says:

    Wonderful post, I hope many people read it.


  9. culturemonk says:

    Its always been weird to me that women still wear makeup in our day and age but men don’t. Its not that I’m against them wearing makeup; but it seems like a dumb double standard to make women feel guilty for not wearing it……..I won’t lie; obviously makeup improves looks…. but perhaps I only think that because I’ve been conditioned to think it.


    • mewhoami says:

      It is strange. Why can men get away without using it, but women almost feel forced to. I agree about being conditioned to it. That is the same for women. The only reason most of them believe that they need it, is because they grew up with it.


  10. April says:

    The only time I seem to compare myself to others is intelligence. (did that sentence make sense?) I have had my years where I wouldn’t be seen in public without makeup, and I still refuse to wear shorts in public for many reasons, but it isn’t because I’m comparing myself to anyone, at least I think so. Now….it is what is on the inside that matters. It always has been.


    • mewhoami says:

      If there was no one to compare ourselves to, then why would care about covering up our flaws? I used to wear makeup every day and when I first went without it, I felt naked. But, soon I began to love it. It’s freeing and saves a ton of time in the morning. I don’t wear shorts either. Haven’t since middle school. Some punk kid ruined my short wearing days. 🙂


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