Have you ever assumed that someone was upset with you based upon their actions, tone of voice or facial expressions? Then you find out later that you were wrong? Assuming can result in unnecessary conflict. It can start rumors, ruin friendships and cause family members to separate.
Unfortunately, this happens a lot. People assume that someone feels a certain way, when in fact they couldn’t be further from the truth.
One thing I’ve learned over the past few years is to never assume anything. Why assume something when you can just ask? I think that many people don’t ask, because they fear that others will see them as insecure. Others don’t, because they are certain that their assumption is correct. Therefore they don’t feel the need to seek confirmation.
I’ve gotten to the point where asking for confirmation, is much more important than fearing how people will perceive me. The same applies even when I wholeheartedly believe that my assumption is right. People who know me well, know that if I’m curious about something, I’ll flat out ask them. To me, that is so much easier than putting tension on myself, worrying about something that in most cases isn’t even true.
People waste so much time having a one way fight with someone else, who isn’t even aware that there’s a fight going on. There’s nothing wrong with asking for confirmation. In fact, by doing so a lot of potential problems could be avoided.
Don’t assume anything. Just ask. It’s so much easier.