Mr. Cool


For most of my son’s life, he’s never shown much concern over how others see him. Being Autistic has its pros and that is certainly one of them. He’s just ‘him’. What you see, is what you get, and I’ve always loved that about him. He’s never set out to impress others with his actions or even with his appearance.

For example, his clothing has never mattered to him. His coats that came home with stains, never bothered him. Socks with holes were just something to fidget with. Dirty shoes were never an issue. He simply didn’t care.

That is, until this year. He’s suddenly becoming Mr. Cool, and I’m loving it! At 14, caring about one’s appearance, is typical boy behavior. But my son, has never shown age appropriate behavior. So this is huge for him!

By paying attention to his appearance, he’s showing growth and improvement in certain areas of his life, that he’s not shown growth in before. Although I don’t encourage my son to be vain or to be the cool kid on the block, that doesn’t change the fact that this is a big milestone for him.

The other day, he forgot his coat at school. When we had to run out for the evening, he was stuck wearing an old coat that he had outgrown. The sleeves were visibly too short and he searched everywhere in the house for a better fitting one. Much to his dismay, he found none, so he was stuck with the small one.

When we got to our destination, he immediately took his coat off. Since this is something he never does, I knew he was trying to keep people from seeing him in it. I felt bad for him because he was obviously embarrassed. But on the other hand, I knew he wouldn’t forget his coat at school again. Sure enough, he brought it home the following day. Although I was happy he learned a lesson from it, the best part was that he was showing concern for himself and his appearance.

This change in him, doesn’t pertain only to his clothing. This morning, while he was getting ready for school, I walked in his room to hurry him along. He was standing in front of the mirror, slowly brushing his hair, making sure that every strand was perfectly in place.

As I stood there watching him from the doorway, all I could do was smile. It was such typical teenage behavior. It was great! I praised him for doing such a great job, and he gave me that handsome smile of his.

My little Mr. Cool is really growing up. He makes me so proud, everyday.

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25 Responses to Mr. Cool

  1. oh how wonderful! I can feel the love coming from you in this post! I love when typical teenage behavior is such a blessing! 🙂


  2. Dave says:

    I haven’t got a lot of experience with autism, but I have found one thing I like about most “mentally handicapped” people. They are genuine. I love your accounts of your son, and I love reading about the way that you take care of him. Thanks for sharing.


    • mewhoami says:

      They are very genuine, indeed. I love that about my son and others with mental handicaps. It’s rare to find people who are as sincere and genuine as them. They have something so special, that most people don’t and they don’t even have to try. It’s just natural for them. Thank you so much, Dave. I enjoy your comments and always appreciate you reading.


  3. suzjones says:

    Yay!! That is so wonderful.
    Small milestones are just the best. 🙂


  4. April says:

    I love proud mom stories.


  5. Jenna Dee says:

    Hugs and love to you. It’s the little things in life that bring us the most happiness. I am very happy for you. Love jenna


  6. Joyful mom moments that celebrate a child’s mile markers are THE best. 🙂


  7. tric says:

    Life is ever changing and your son is continuing to grow and develop in all kinds of ways. I loved this post as it shows me that even at my age there is a chance we are not yet fully formed.


  8. findingcoopersvoice says:

    Such a great milestone! I’m happy for you mama!


  9. parmis rad says:

    Wonderful! Your love and devotion to your son is truly inspiring just as your beautiful writing. I wish you both well 🙂


  10. Khai says:

    Hooray for Mr Cool!


  11. sothislife says:

    So wonderful!!!


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