Who would hurt someone simply because that person loves them? Most likely you would. Just as I would, as well as many others who read this. Unfortunately, that’s what most of us do. We hurt the people who love us. The same people who we’re supposed to love the most.
If we visit a relative who we rarely spend time with, we tend to treat them with utmost respect, love and kindness. We don’t take our time with them for granted. That is the way it should be. We realize that we may not see that person again for a while. We also know that tragedies can happen, and that could be the last time we see them. Because of that, we appreciate them and our time with them.
Why is it then, that we don’t appreciate the people who are right in front of us? The people we see everyday. Why do we take them for granted? Instead of appreciating them, we take our problems out on them.
We get irritated by minor things, and speak out of anger when our loved ones try to help. We treat them poorly because we’re in a bad mood, at no fault of theirs. Sometimes we have a bad day at work or get stuck in traffic on the way home. Then our frustration radiates from us the moment we walk through the door. Is it our family’s fault that we had a bad day? Did they hold up traffic? No. So why punish them for it? Sadly, we do this much more often than we should.
Most of us don’t do this intentionally. We don’t set out to be rude to the people we love. Sometimes we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. Regardless, it doesn’t make it right. So why do we do it?
We’re comfortable. We’re over familiar with them and no longer feel the need to make a good impression. Over time, we develop a false sense of liberty to do and say whatever we please.
Subconsciously we think that since we ‘have them’ now, we can act however we want to. After all, they’re not going anywhere. Wrong. Just because we ‘have’ someone, doesn’t mean that we can’t chase them away. Over time, our poor behavior can and will cause that person to change their opinion of us. Ultimately, I doubt that is what we want to happen. We wanted that person to like us before, so don’t we want them to like us now?
We should always endeavor to be good to those we love, no matter what the day brings us. They shouldn’t have to pay for our bad day, our problems or because we woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
Love them. Appreciate them. Don’t taken them for granted. They may not be there tomorrow. Neither may you. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. Tell them you love them, and more importantly show them. Our actions do speak louder than our words.