Do looks matter in a relationship? Yes and no. Obviously, you should be attracted to your partner. With that said, what one person finds to be physically attractive can vary widely from that of another. Everyone’s preferences are different. Whatever that attraction may be for you, if it’s not there, then the door is opened to a variety of problems in the future. Therefore, looks do matter.
However, they should not be the primary focus. A person can be beautiful on the outside, but wicked on the inside. Therefore, what’s on the inside should matter most. Plus one thing is for certain, looks will fade. They do for everyone, but the inside will remain the same.
Although this makes sense to me, I’m learning that this opinion isn’t shared among everyone.
Watching a married couple interact lately, I’ve begun to question if looks do indeed make a difference. Does a person’s beautiful appearance give them liberty to behave however they want to? For example, the woman in this marriage treats her husband like trash. Not occasionally, but constantly and he takes it. From one day to the next, he bows down to her scolding, nagging, yelling and outright mean behavior.
He never speaks up for himself. Instead, he remains silent and obeys every one of her commands. So as a result, she gets away with treating him however she wants to. Why does he put up with it? The only answer I can come up with, is that she’s beautiful.
Maybe it’s because I’m a woman, but I do not understand that one bit. I don’t care how beautiful or handsome you are, if you treat me like dirt then I don’t want anything to do with you.
So why is that people allow this to happen? Does beauty automatically cancel out a person’s mean behavior? Wouldn’t you prefer someone who may not be as attractive, but at least treats you with respect and love?
No matter what the situation may be, no one deserves to be treated like trash. There is no justifiable reason why a person should allow someone else to treat them in such a terrible manner. Maybe it’s just me, but I’d much rather have a partner who treats me well and looks average, than one who is a model and treats me poorly.
So this leads me to my question for the day…
Do people get away with bad behavior and poor treatment of others, just because they’re attractive?
Or, maybe you have allowed someone to treat you poorly because of their looks. If so, why?