Is your electronic device more important than your child? For some the answer seems to be “yes”. Placing these devices before our children may be unintentional, but the results are the same. Our children lack the attention they deserve and need. I’m not pointing fingers, because I’ve been guilty of this too.
A few months ago I watched a video regarding this very topic. Parents were with their children, but instead of spending time with them, the parents were on their phones. As they sent texts, watched videos and played games, their children sat there doing nothing but watching them. Most likely they were anticipating the moment their parent would put the phone down, so that they could spend time together.
That video spoke volumes to me and since then I’ve worked very hard to put all devices down or step away from them when my son is around.
The message from the video struck even harder the day after I watched it. We all went to a small restaurant together. As we sat down with our food, I looked over to see a woman sitting at another table with her three children. At first, I was very impressed by how well the children were all sitting and behaving while in the restaurant. Then I looked at the mom and was immediately saddened for them.
With her head facing down, she had her eyes glued to the screen of her phone. As she sat there sending text after text they all quietly watched her, waiting for her to put the phone away. Throughout the entire duration of our stay, she never did. For 30 minutes, her three children ate silently and watched her as she played on her phone. It broke my heart. I wanted to go sit with the kids myself. Perhaps I should have.
Our texts, videos and games can wait. There are real life people who need us right now. We need to put them first. To put anything else before them is selfish. Our children didn’t ask to be brought into the world. We asked for them, and even if we didn’t, we were given them as precious gifts. They need to be treated that way.
Our electronic devices will continue to function just fine without our attention. Our children will not.
To be a parent is a job that requires work and time, but it is well worth every moment and every sacrifice. Let’s be parents to our children. Let’s love them. Let’s make their generation better than our own.