It’s Not Always Roses

Who ever said that you have to go through life pretending that it’s perfect? Everyone goes through struggles and everyone has problems. I don’t care how happy you appear to be, how often you laugh or how big your smile is, you have problems just like the rest of us. It’s okay to admit that. Sure, we shouldn’t walk around under a cloud of doom and gloom every day, but that doesn’t mean that those days don’t exist. They do.

I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have it all put together. Some days my life is smooth as butter and other days it’s pretty messed up. Life can be hard. No one can honestly say that it’s not. We all experience pain, sadness and anger at times. That’s to be expected.

Contrary to what people want you to believe, there are no perfect marriages, no perfect family, no perfect job and definitely no perfect people. I know someone who thinks they’re perfect, but they would never admit to it and they don’t have to because their actions say it all. But, here’s a news flash –  those ‘perfect’ people are not perfect either. In fact, their refusal of being wrong, probably makes them less perfect than the rest of us who can admit to our faults.

The point is, is that we all have issues. Many times we are afraid to admit that because of how we feel that others will perceive us. No one likes to be judged by others. Most of us don’t want to be seen as constant complainers and that’s understandable. Complaining gets old for both the complainer and the one they’re complaining to. Even still, there are times when we have valid complaints and should be able to express them.

There are also many people who would rather go on with life pretending that everything is great, so that they don’t cause their loved ones to worry. The fact is though, they know your life isn’t perfect even without you telling them. They know this because, for one, it’s unrealistic to think otherwise, and two, because they love you and pay attention to the words that you leave unsaid.

The most powerful words we speak are the ones between the spaces. It’s understandable that we don’t want to lay our lives out for everyone to see. However, with that said, it’s perfectly okay and sometimes necessary to open up to people. No one is alone. But, you can certainly feel that way when you keep everything bottled up inside.

People love you and will help you, if you allow them to. Perhaps all they can do is listen or give you a hug, but sometimes that’s all you need. One thing is for sure, it’s perfectly okay if your life is not always roses.