Child support is a good resource, when it’s used appropriately. It is meant to assist the custodial parent by supplying the funds necessary to take care of a child’s needs. I used the word assist here, because this financial responsibility should be on both parents. Each parent should have an equal share.
Many people are good about sharing the load when it comes to their children. They are mature about the situation and handle matters in a reasonable and fair manner. If this is you, I commend you! However, there are others who do the complete opposite. There are fathers who refuse to pay a dime or have gone off the radar entirely. There are also mothers who milk the man for all he’s worth and gives absolutely none of it to the child. That’s the part I’m going to focus on.
Many women receive money for child support and spend it only on themselves. The child sees not even a penny of it. I’ve known of people who get well over $1000 a month in child support and their kids complain because they can’t even afford a $30 pair of shoes. That support is meant for the child, not for the parent. It should help pay for bills that are directly related to the child, but it should not go into the mother’s pocket and should definitely not be her sole income.
There are women I know who are sitting at home, refusing to work, because they know that at the end of the month a check will arrive in the mail that will pay for everything. That is, everything except what the child needs. In my book, that’s called theft. When did it become okay to steal from your child? I feel for these kids and also for their fathers. He’s out there working like a mad man trying to provide for his kids and they’re running around hungry, wearing raggedy clothes. Meanwhile, their mom is at home enjoying her big screen tv, new car and fancy furniture.
The sad part is, is that people continue to get away with it. I know of kids who never knew that their fathers were sending money each month. The kids worked odd jobs so they could buy their own clothing and food, because they thought their dad had run off, leaving their mom broke, struggling to pay for everything herself.
I believe that there needs to be a way of monitoring the use of child support funds. There are too many children who are not having their needs met and too many fathers being taken advantage of. There needs to be a change. A real one.