Since my son’s bus was so very late this afternoon, I had the opportunity to observe the nature of other mothers as they picked up their children from an earlier bus.
Two women came out of their separate homes, rushing off to get their children from the bus stop. Minutes later they each returned from around the corner with their child by their side. One walked briskly with her child, without uttering a word as they headed towards home.
The other could be heard from a distance and I knew without even turning around that she was heading up the road. I could hear her scolding her child and yelling at him about how she was going to whoop him when he got home. That’s fine. You’re the parent and do what you must. But, what I don’t agree with was the language she was using. This child, who could not have been older than 8, was having the most awful of swear words thrown at him like they were nothing. All the way down the side walk she continued to yell at her son using just about every word in ‘the book’. Her son meanwhile kept his head down and walked alongside her, remaining completely silent. I felt so saddened for him having to endure such irrational behaviour. Way to go mom. Way to be a role model.
Parents, don’t you want more for your children? I was always taught that you should want your kids to have a better life than you. But, how will they ever be better or have a better life if we subject them to such immaturity? This is not the behaviour a role model should have. These children are our future. They are the next doctors, lawyers, police officers and governors. How will they have any self confidence or prosper in life, if we sit around all day telling them how dumb and terrible they are?
I am not the perfect parent by any means. I have made my fair share of mistakes. But, some things are just common sense. But, like the saying goes “Common sense is not so common.”
We are supposed to love our children, provide them with security, encourage them and do everything in our power to help them succeed. We should teach them morals and values. Teach them to love, not hate. Our parenting style does have an impact on our child’s future and it is up to us if we want that impact to be a good one or not.
“Children are a living message we send to a time we will not see.”